Thursday, November 14, 2013

Why do we hold on?

It has almost been a month since the last post so I will try and shake some of the cobwebs off and try to get my irrelevant points across. Since leaving New Zealand, I spent 3 days in Singapore hanging out with people I met while living in NZ. Singapore is a nice spot, a little crowded and expensive but worth checking out for a few days. After leaving Singapore, it was off to Thailand. Have spent the last 17 days here and if you can imagine, I have absolutely loved coming back. I ponder a lot but the thought of loving it here so much and having the urge to stay never crossed my mind once since I booked my flight in July. I figured two years was enough, time to move on but would be great to see everyone again. I just love it. Admittedly, I might like the attention I get a little more than I should. I've really missed random strangers telling me I'm handsome or a group of female workers staring at me before their business opened. The amount of friends that are around, how cheap general life is, the food and the weather. Just really, really great.

I have also come to the conclusion that having a limited amount of time with a place or a person will alter the way you perceive that experience. If someone told you that you had only 48 hours in New York City, knowing that you only have two days will make you yearn for the things you missed out on and what could have been. The possibilities could have been endless. On the other hand, if I told you that you needed to spend the next year in New York, your perception and idea of New York would probably be different, good or bad. I think it is the same thing with people. If you meet someone one night but find out they are leaving the next day for Madagascar, you would probably only see the good things in that person, want more time with them and wonder what could have been. But if you had to spend the next 8 months travelling with that person, you would certainly feel different about them.

I feel like we always want more. We want more money, we want more time, we want more love. And who wouldn't want more things that make them happy? One thing I think that is wrong with Facebook is that it keeps friendships alive that should probably just die. It's great that I had really good friends in high school and maybe I keep in touch with a few of them. However, at some point both parties need to realize that they just aren't going to see each other again. And that's okay. Things don't need to be forever. People fall in and out of love. You shouldn't be forced to stay together just because at one point you both believed you would grow old together. People change. Meeting people while travelling sort of toughens you up when it comes to goodbyes because you just become accustomed to it. Maybe some people are just meant to be in your life for just one drink, one dinner, one weekend or one month. I don't think this is something we should fight. You can't fight against the world. The world takes us places and gives us opportunities. Maybe instead of fighting the randomness and trying to control everything, maybe giving in and just going with the natural flow of things is best.

As you probably know from reading these posts the last while, I don't really know anything and I am probably wrong. For instance, everyday around the world, people meet and fall in love. One day they are going to their job at Sears, the next day they are making plans to live in South America with the person who took their order at Harvey's
(how great is Harvey's?). The idea of a guy (or girl) meeting someone and not taking no for an answer is also incredibly great and romantic. Maybe there are times when you go toe-to-toe with the world and only accept the outcome you seek. I think that those times are few and far between but putting up a fight for what you want is to be admired and respected in my opinion. So if you find that a job, person or place just isn't working and another option seems like a good, easier, safer alternative, don't fight it. Embrace it. Embrace change. On the other hand, if you are 200% sure that you have the right business idea or met the person who could change everything, you should believe that you know what is right for you and what you want in life. These are the things I think. See you in Hong Kong.

"You only lose what you cling to."

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