Last May, I went home to be at best man at my friend Matt Laurie's wedding. As best men do, I was given the task of giving a speech at the beginning of the evening. I'm not super scared of big crowds but didn't have much experience in the speech department. I will try to instill some of that knowledge I gained as we find ourselves in the middle of what is known as 'wedding season'.
1-I will start with what I believe is the most important part of giving a speech. Don't try to be something you aren't. If you aren't a funny person, don't force jokes down their throats. People have a way of seeing through other people. Just be yourself and everything else will be fine. Promise.
2-I started researching/studying for my speech about a week before I had to give it. It takes time. Don't wait until the last minute. Think about what you want to get across, do a few rough drafts, and maybe run it by someone you trust. I Googled how to give a speech and watched YouTube videos of worst best man speeches. It helps.
3-The shorter the better. Whatever you have, you can probably cut a bit out.
4-Having a few drinks isn't a bad idea. Being dunk is. Keep it together and let loose after your job is done.
5-Inside jokes are bad. Know your audience and keep it PG 13. Don't swear or talk about yourself the whole time.
6-I brought up cue cards. Winging it might work for some people but you might freeze up. Bring up some paper, makes you look legit.
7-Talk slowly. Enjoy yourself. It will be over in no time.
8-Dress the part. Wear a tuxedo, wear a suit, get a haircut, rock cufflinks, etc. Looking good breeds confidence. Lots of potential bridesmaids/groomsmen out there people!
9-Thank people. Thank parents. Thank anyone who had anything to do with the day. Show gratitude and appreciation.
10-Relax. All people are interested in is drinking, eating and dancing. They probably aren't even listening to you anyway so don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Don't forget to be yourself.
"Are you and adult" Little kid I met in New Zealand.